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This post is amazing. The juxtaposition of the brilliant colors and the darkness of human despair in your artwork tells the whole story - words aren’t even needed! Thanks, Darren!

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thanks MsW 🙏🏼 the only words that are needed are gratitude & love for you and your deep understanding 🫶🏼

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As a Gen Z-er I’m always struck with envy hearing about older generations reminiscing on this time I didn’t get to live. There is no way to gauge what’s romanticized or false memory or the truth but not the whole truth... To remedy this I for one try my best to refrain from all the digital heroin I can, and wish it for others, all while knowing this stage of collective, federalized addiction will, ideally, culminate in a sort of divine sobriety. Very triggered and also soothed by this. Lovely work!

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thanks for bringing your Z-energy to this conversation, CoCo 🙏🏼

technology has changed us forever... it has its hooks so deep within our brains... too deep for this Gen-Xer to imagine the ideal of sobriety.

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I think the sobriety shows itself as the equal but opposite reactions to the addiction, like in your work here!

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the opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety… it’s connection.

https://opentochange.substack.com/p/the-opposite-of-addiction-isnt-sobriety

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Alone - in a room - alone with music, or a book - which allowed our single brain to create worlds and emotions and reactions that showed us "who" we were when nobody is watching... Can't completely put electronics away, because it is leading me to kindred souls. Thank you for your words and depictions.

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thanks for remembering, Tamara 🙏🏼 and for sharing...

we are grateful to have your kindred soul in our OTC community.

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Powerful words and images Darren, thank you 🙏. I’m a genX er too and I’m so grateful to have memory of what it was like before the internet. Having said that, there was a loneliness I felt then that I think the internet at its best helps with, to more easily find ‘the others’, your tribe, access to information and knowing you’re not alone. I find that it’s easy to be nostalgic about what is was like before. I think what’s required on a personal level is proactive discernment.

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thanks for stopping by, Amanda 🙏🏼

and for sharing your unique perspective.

i agree... proactive discernment is essential.

i hope your Appetite for Living (within the Substack ecosystem) has empowered you to feel less lonely... and i'm happy to invite you to be a part of our growing, Open to Change community.

i send you 💚

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Thanks Darren. Yes those gen x teenage years are long gone. Great to be cocreating community here in Substack with you. You’re welcome anytime over at Appetite for living, thanks for reaching out there and pointing me in your direction. 🫶🏼

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The counter-trend is well underway. I have kids in school, and over the last few years, I've seen the cool thing change from being maximally plugged-in to being maximally unplugged. A few years ago, the alphas were the ones with the newest phones and the largest social media followings. Now, the alphas are the ones who never touch their phones and don't use social media. Covid changed everything: after being forced to interact exclusively with screens for one to two years, the kids want reality.

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thanks for your comment, Alex 🙏🏼

"...the kids want reality."

i sure hope — the counter-trend — continues

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oh my god. This is so good. Just so good. It's the bold simplicity that makes your words and pictures stand apart from other articles and comments about this major mental health crisis. Thank you.

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thanks for your kind words, Jo 🙏🏼

i appreciate the depth of your reading

and i worry about the coming-crisis in mental health

it seems intractable

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I think we must have hope. It starts with what we can do in our own lives and in those we love. "Be the change you want to see." Gandhi

I see so many parents who conviscate their children's phones for using them too much. Yet the adults around those children scroll endlessly through their own phones. They don't engage in eye contact even when their children talk. So there is no CONNECTION.

It starts at home. ☺️

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it starts at home — with love — and connection

🙏🏼 Jo

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In silence, souls speak,

Patience weaves a tender bond,

Depth of hearts revealed.

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I remember.

I just scrapped in as one of the last generations who still played outside as a kid. Another great piece.

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thanks for connecting, Michael 🙏🏼

for remembering...

and for skating, once again, through our growing, OTC community.

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Very poignant. I do remember!

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thanks for reading & reminiscing, Laura 🙏🏼

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Thank you Darren. This is so beautiful. I grew up in the 1960's, pre-electronic everything. I'm eternally grateful for this. All my experiences were my own—non-surveilled, non-cataloged, in nature, with people. Later, when I grew into adulthood, my learning came from the library, through books. The physical space of all those great libraries from Maine to California are etched in my mind forever. I hope that in the future we can all recognize the real power that comes from this kind of simple, pure, being.

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my pleasure, Darel 🙏🏼

thanks for reading... and for reminding us how learning (and life) used to be.

"I hope that in the future we can all recognize the real power that comes from this kind of simple, pure, being." -- DG

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Thanks @darrenharley - beautiful

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🙏🏼 Joanna

welcome to open to change... thanks for reading

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Well written. I agree and disagree. You’re very right about digital heroin and this is beautifully written and very heartfelt. The delete social media thing makes sense but to so many that just isn’t going to be their reality. I believe an approach along the lines of using social media as a tool for learning and networking is more feasible and valuable in the long term

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thanks for joining the conversation, Ime 🙏🏼

i'm not suggesting that everyone delete their social media accounts... even though i have.

i'm suggesting that we return to connecting with other humans, face to face.

"digital heroin" is not going away... and as you suggest... we must learn to use it (smartphones, apps) in moderation...

while Zuck & his crew keep working to make it more addictive.

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Hi Darren, I remember! I was born before the internet. Sounds crazy, eh? Love your art, and your poetry. I blog about EMF, and dig into the science behind addictive tech. Here's one of my articles among many FYI: https://romanshapoval.substack.com/p/the-1-emf-youve-forgotten-about

I'm also helping Arthur Firstenberg (wrote the Invisible Rainbow) in getting his Substack distributed to the masses. I hope we can connect!

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nice to meet you, Roman 🙏🏼

thanks for your kind-words and for connecting...

i received your email... and will respond after reviewing the Rainbow...

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Thanks 🙏 so much Darren! However the Invisible Rainbow is a book. Unless you're a hyperspeed reader 🤔Arthur's substack is his name - Arthur Firstenberg.

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I remember - when reading a poem - was a solitary activity

Now I am accompanied by - a TV screen in the background

in the foreground - this phone - with its endless WhatsApp notifications - within these notifications - links to memes - also astute political articles foreshadowing my - impending doom

these links superseded by alarm prompts - so that - I remember - to take my medicine

I remember - being alone - hating it - now I ache for it - solitude

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thanks for remembering, Minnie 🙏🏼 and for your poem...

i too — long — for solitude

in fact i'm writing — about it — right now

my next post is about loneliness... solitude...

i look forward to your impressions...

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Beautifully written, what's frustrating is how reliant society is on social media platforms now. I can't even be a singer-songwriter without being peer pressured to be posting content on TikTok, feeling the need to go 'viral' to feel validated. I quit social media 3 years ago for this reason, so being back on now but for a work/business reason is extremely frustrating! Wish the world was less reliant on digital platforms.

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thanks for sharing, Tabitha 🙏🏼 i wish you strength in your fight for emotional/psychological normalcy. the heroin is strong these days... but so are you 🎶

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Oh my Darren! May your exquisite poem revive every closed mind and heart. My prayer is that every human experience your art. This brings soul healing tears. Thank you and God Bless.

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from your lips to the ears (& eyes) of all readers, Rhana 🙏🏼

thank you for your heartwarming words... and for supporting (& sharing) OTC.

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